How To Stay Healthy, Happy + Sane (And Calm Your Farm): The Wedding Series
What does one do 1 month out from their wedding?
Is there a beauty regime I should follow in the lead up to my wedding?
What type of underwear do Brides wear under their wedding dress?
Unashamedly, it’s these questions and so many others that I have typed into Google in the lead up to the big day (which believe it or not is only 3 sleeps away!). I often have to laugh at the ridiculous search history that appears on my phone – from Spanx to bridal hairstyles and anything and everything in between, I only wished that I could find some honest advice that would also lend itself in the form of reassurance that ‘everything was going to be just fine.’
And that’s exactly why I’ve brought this wedding series to you in the hope that you can find some form of reassurance from these words. It’s so easy for us to scroll through thousands of images and get inspiration for our big day, but what about the crazy range of feelings that go alongside it?
How do we manage the excitement and pure joy of planning a wedding that also happens to coincide with a whole lot of insecurities and anxiety that you never thought existed?
I can only speak from experience but now that it’s crunch time, this past month has certainly intensified the feelings! It’s a time when RSVP’s are finalised, balances are paid off and all loose ends are tied up. And if you’re having a seating plan for your reception, the very important task of choosing where your guests are going to sit is all rolled up into this exhilarating, slightly chaotic month long countdown.
I’ll admit, after staying relatively calm throughout the entire lead up, it’s at this point that I’ve felt the stress and the adrenaline kick in. When you see that date fast approaching, it’s only natural to panic as your ‘to-do’ list starts to expand! Plus, I’ve literally felt dizzy from my head spinning so much (WTF?).
Here’s what I’ve been doing to help ‘calm my farm’ in these precious moments in the lead up:
WRITE IT DOWN
Writing down every single thing that needs to happen between now and the day has helped me get everything out of my head and onto paper where I can see it. With good old fashioned pen and paper, I set out headings eg. Florist, Photographer, Wedding Venue and wrote down all that we needed to follow up. Slowly but surely ticking these things off has been a huge relief and it’s also been a great opportunity to see which tasks could also be delegated to others.
Writing everything down helps to assess which items can be quickly and easily ticked off (such as an email confirmation) and which things may be a little more time consuming (a seating chart).
TALK IT OUT
Whenever I feel stressed, the best way that I manage is to talk openly with the people that I trust. Jimmy has been a huge support and has often brought many calm solutions to the table when I’ve felt overwhelmed. He has gratefully put his hand up on many occasions to take the reins on certain things… when my ‘OCD’ self lets him! My beautiful Mum and sister have also been lifesavers and after a good ol vent, I feel back on track and ready to dive back in again.
CREATE SOME ZEN
With so many things to do, it’s easy to fall into the trap of staying consumed in the wedding bubble. This past month I’ve realised more than ever how important it is to chill out and take a break from all things weddings! My sanity has been restored with beach hangs, a live concert, a yoga workshop and catch up’s with friends. This has helped to put everything into perspective and instead of feeling weighed down by the pressure of it all, it’s enabled me to stay in that feel-good, warm and fuzzy place of excitement. That’s what we want ladies – warm and fuzzies all the way!
As much as I’d love to say yes to all the usual social outings, this month in the lead up to the wedding has seen me say NO a lot more than yes. If you’re feeling exhausted and just want to mooch on the couch on the weekend – just do it! Squeeze in the extra sleep in and potter around the house so you can get organised with washing/meals for the week. There’s only so much we can do, and people will understand and respect your need for extra space.
I love incorporating some form of ritual as part of my day to keep me grounded and this has been more important than ever in the the lead up to the wedding. Whether it’s writing in a journal, diffusing essential oils, going to the gym or my favourite ‘legs up the wall’ pose – doing something every day that makes you feel lighter and brighter will put your nervous system at ease.
Some other little bits and pieces:
- With our wedding so close to Christmas, I’ve had to book a lot of beauty appointments in advance. It doesn’t really matter what time of year your wedding is, getting in early and booking them in will take that stress away.
- A quick check in with all your wedding vendors will make sure that everyone is on the same page. You’ll be managing a few emails/phone calls but the reassurance will leave you feeling cool, calm and collected.
- Don’t be afraid to reach out for help. So many people will offer, so do follow up with them if you need. People are more than happy and willing!
With all of that being said, please remember to breathe. You can eat well, beautify well, and do all of the ‘right’ things to look and feel your best but the greatest tool you can call upon is your own breath. Take micro moments out of your day to process how you’re feeling and don’t resist ANY of it. If you need to cry (do it), if you’re feeling nervous and a little bit jittery, come back to your breath… and I’m talking the big, deep belly breaths here!
Staying healthy, happy and sane is hard enough at the best of times so when you add a wedding to the mix – please be extra gentle with yourself.
I feel like I’ve only really skimmed the surface of what I can possibly share in the lead up but I’ll be sure to follow up with a round-up post of ALL the books, resources, websites and things that helped support me throughout the wedding planning.
And don’t worry, I’ll be sharing a few pics and letting you in on all the people who helped create our special day too!
Thank you so much for reading and following along this year. I’m signing off as Miss Sciotto and I can’t wait to report back as a new, proud wifey.
Sending lots of love to you this Christmas and New Year!
Image Credit: Anne Edgar