Messy Top Knots and A Fresh Start
In case you’re new around here, welcome, welcome, welcome! And if you’ve been following along since 2013, well… all I can say is a heartfelt thank you.
This has been a long time coming, and when I say ‘this’, I mean completely revamping my online home and slightly steering direction. I turn 27 this weekend and with each Birthday that I’m blessed to see, I like to spend some time reflecting on the year(s) that have passed and all the excitement that’s yet to come.
So much has changed since I first pressed publish on this page and it got me thinking about the significiant changes and transitions that we tend to navigate as we stumble, pivot, shimmy and stride through our twenties.
It feels like only yesterday that I was knocking back shots at the local with the uni crew, waiting for that fortnightly Centrelink payment to come through (that’s government benefits for those not in Australia) and praying that I would somehow get a decent job out all of this. Privileged? Very much so. Slightly anxious and overwhelmed? You bet.
Now that I look back on it, the pressure to ‘succeed’ coupled with the deep desire to ‘do well’ was always front and centre. We kick off our twenties feeling bright eyed and enthusiastic about our careers, hoping like hell that we find a job (and enjoy it). There’s the fun and heartache of navigating relationships. From break-up’s to the spark of a new love, to tensions with friends and magically hoping that you’ll find people that ‘get you’. There’s money woes, and the sweet sweet feeling of receiving your first pay check. And then there’s a whole host of other feelings such as the ‘not good enough’s’ and the fear of never fully getting your shit together.
Your twenties may involve jumping on a plane and exploring the world with just a backpack and passport in hand, or perhaps the dream has always been to settle down in the burbs’. You might do everything possible not to fall pregnant, to then get asked fifty times a day when you’re having kids. Throw in a few rejections and a whopping dose of self-doubt, and you’ve got yourself one hell of a ride!
I’m not saying all of this to make our twenties sound awful. No, no, no.
At the end of the day, we have SO much choice and what tends to grapple us the most is the idea of making the ‘right’ choice.
The fact is, there is no ‘right choice’. Because no matter whether you find yourself feeling happy and content or stuck in a rut with indecision; there is always the opportunity to choose again, pivot and course correct.
The life of a twenty something is not linear – especially when it comes to careers and relationships! It is filled with the highs and lows, messy top knots and avocado on toast and to be honest, it all just feels like one big experiment. And what a privilege it is to have that opportunity?
So to wind up my rambles and make my point. This isn’t about having ‘more’ or getting ahead. You’re done with that. This is about choosing a life that feels more meaningful to you. A life that is steeped in courage and kindness, not fear and self-doubt. It’s about making choices that ultimately feel just as good on the inside as they do on the outside, and feeling that level of comfort and confidence from within.
You can have your fresh start any day of the week (and this is most certainly mine). No matter what has been before, or what you’re currently facing, it makes it that little bit better knowing that we’re all in this together yeah?
There is so much more to say, but for now – I’m so stoked to have you here. Come as you are, messy bun and all. I hope this online space gives you the encouragement you need to go after what you truly want, without being so darn hard on yourself.