Rolling With The Seasons + A New Way To Get Stuff Done In 2017!
Ah here we are. 2017 baby! The year that almost everyone was aching for and yet just saying two-thousand-and-seventeen out loud sounds completely surreal, don’t you think?
If you’ve spent majority of January feeling nostalgic like me, you may have been in reflective mode not only looking back on the past year, but the last 5 years too.
How is it that in the space of 5 years a young woman moves to Brisbane, starts her blog, rediscovers her passion, becomes a life coach, gets engaged to her long-time love, they buy a house in the ‘burbs and get married. It actually floors me!
Now I’m not saying this to toot my own here, I’m simply saying that a lot can happen in the space of one year (let alone five) if you direct your love and attention towards what you really want.
And with each year, of course the highlights are also coupled with setbacks, fear, disappointment, doubt, heartache, a ridiculous amount of worry and hard work and yet I wouldn’t have it any other way. The lessons that I’ve learnt within those times are honestly worth their weight in gold.
Yes I’ve felt like yelling, ‘what the hell am I even doing?’ more times than I can count, but completely stretching and extending my comfort zone has also enabled me to re-think what’s truly possible. I know that’s the case for you too!
So what does this self-confessed over-achiever have to say about getting stuff done in 2017? Well… a little and a lot actually.
Paulo Coelho did say it best when he stated, “Life has many ways of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once.”
Too true Paulo, too true and I vividly remember thinking the exact same thing when I was sitting in a café last year with Jimmy, sipping on chai and getting excited about our upcoming wedding and our crazy, simultaneous house hunt. As I sat there, I couldn’t help but get a little teary. Not in the usual, ‘I’m so excited’ way, but these tears were coming from a slightly overwhelmed and deflated version of me. The version of me that thought:
Why haven’t you made more progress in your business?
How come you haven’t followed through on writing your e-book, like you said you would?
Why aren’t you taking on more coaching clients?
Clearly, this version of me is a total bi-atch but I couldn’t ignore ‘her’. As I blurted out these fears to Jimmy, he looked at me – like he always does – in a way that completely softens me.
I knew that I had to stop being so freakin’ darn hard on myself.
For me, 2016 was definitely the year that my personal life came first. Whilst I still saw a handful of lovely clients, I also started a new job with the Beautiful You Coaching Academy (yay!), relished planning our wedding and then most weekends were spent bumping into the same aspiring first home owners at open inspections. It was a BIG, exciting year, and yet instead of being fully present and celebrating our incredible efforts, my mind kept wandering to my perceived ‘shortcomings’.
We are cyclical beings and just like we have four seasons in a year, I wholeheartedly believe that there are so called ‘seasons’ to our lives. No longer do we need to cram it all in and no longer do I see ‘balance’ as a scale that is portioned out evenly between projects, people and things.
Now, more than ever we need to embrace our own individual seasons, where there is a time and place for everything.
Why was I worrying about my business, when in fact, I was living and breathing a completely different season? And an amazing one at that!
You will go through seasons where work will take the reigns and you’ll feel so amped up to progress in your field. You may go through seasons of heartbreak, where after another relationship breakdown, you start to question is there the ‘right’ one out there for me? There’s seasons of health-filled priorites, travelling adventures and learning the ropes of motherhood. And hey, don’t forget about those seasons of complete utter confusion too. There’s nothing quite like the comfort of cosying up in bed watching re-runs of Gilmore Girls.
There’s a new way to get stuff done in 2017 and it involves completely embracing and riding out the wave of whatever season you find yourself in.
Let me be clear on one thing though. Seasons can last for as long or as little as you like. You call the shots! You can probably take on multiple ‘seasons’ simultaneously, ie. Working on your health and your career, but again, only you know how much you can/want to take on. I like the idea of focusing on 3 things throughout the year and doing them all really well, instead of a bunch of half-hearted attempts.
Knowing and choosing which season you’re in is also going to depend on your energy levels too. You’ll know within yourself when it’s time to start something new, stay the course and ride it out, or change things up a bit simply by taking stock of how you’re feeling in each moment. That means resting when you feel the need to (without the self-imposed guilts), taking action when you’re feeling inspired, or going all in when you’re riding the high.
With all of that being said, know that absolutely everyone is trying to navigate their own seasons. Whilst you may be feeling ‘meh’ – don’t be concerned about the woman next to you vibing high on those sparkly summer feels. You’ll get your time. Promise! And remember, when you do get in that flow and feel good zone, please please please enjoy it. Don’t dull it down. Because sooner or later, you’ll be riding out a completely different season once again.
What do you think? Does the thought of embracing a particular season help take the pressure off ‘doing it all’ at once? What season are you currently in? And if you’d like to stop being so darn hard on yourself too, know that I am here to support you in 2017. Whether that’s through sharing stories or resources, or coaching with me. The timing is ever so right for me to put my focus back here and that’s a ‘season’ that I’m excitedly embracing this year!
With so much love,
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