Striving to Arrive: How One Shift in Perception Can Change Everything
We all have desires. Perhaps it’s to land the dream job, to lose 5 kilo’s, to be financially secure? It’s awesome to dream big, and I’m all for making those dreams become a reality, but what happens when we attach ourselves to the outcome? We strive, we push, we yearn, we do everything in our power to make it happen. Then we arrive.
We finish our university degree.
We unpack all of our belongings into our dream home.
We fit into those jeans.
We get the ring.
We start our business.
We jet set on that holiday.
And then for some reason, we arrive and the destination doesn’t feel good. It’s not enough, we want more, and we are left asking ourselves “is this really it?”
This feeling of striving and yearning for more has been a reoccurring theme for me. I think back to the day that I graduated with my Bachelor of Health Science. All of those assignments, readings, early mornings, and late night’s had brought me to that moment that I had been waiting for. I could hang that certificate on my wall and feel proud that all of the hard work paid off. Don’t get me wrong, it was an incredibly proud moment, yet I was still left with that unsettled feeling. What next? Now that I have arrived, what’s the next big thing to strive for?
Instead of enjoying the entire process, I had completely attached myself to the outcome. I thought that once I had my degree I would feel more confident in my abilities. I thought that I would be taken more seriously. I thought that I would be able to earn a better income. Overall, I had put this goal up on a pedestal, and convinced myself that it would be the answer to my prayers.
We convince ourselves that once we reach these goals or milestones – we will feel happy, but what if we enjoyed every single moment right up until the lead up? What if we could feel happy and content in our knowledge and ability before we get the piece of paper? What if we could feel happy and content within our relationship before we get the ring? And what if we could feel happy and content within our body before we lose that last 5 kilo’s? I bet we would be feeling a whole lot happier with ourselves throughout the entire process. Our dreams and goals will be celebrated to their full extent, because we chose to enjoy the process.
I’ve certainly had some ah-ha moment’s these past few weeks where I’ve found myself attaching to that end goal once again. I’ve recently started my life coaching course (which is blowing my mind by the way) and these thought’s started to creep back in;
Once I finish my course, I will have the confidence to be able to help other people.
Yes the course will help me to gain more confidence, but I do in fact have the ability to help people right now. This course has already taught me that we are forever learning, and there is ALWAYS going to be more to learn, to strive for and to work towards, but that is okay. We don’t necessarily have to arrive. We can enjoy the fact that we are building and growing as a person with every experience, and every milestone. We will never be the expert, because we were never meant to be.
Sitting amongst a group of beautiful like-minded women and listening to an incredible woman speak also made me realise that we should celebrate the now, the present moment. Be proud, be content, be happy and celebrate your ‘now’ whilst all of those other goals are coming to fruition. You don’t have to strive, to push, to control to get there. Know that you are enough and have enough already.
So what will you choose? Will you set another goal or will you change your perception? Instead of striving to arrive, let’s see our goals as an opportunity for continual growth and learning. You might be surprised at what you discover.
As always, I would love to hear your thoughts. Let me know in the comment’s below – what have you been striving for?