Thank- You 2014: The Year of Expansion
If I could sum up 2014 in one word it would be expansion. As I look back on this year, I have been stretched, pulled, tried and tested in so many ways (mostly in a good way). When I first stumbled on the personal development road, I knew that it was going to be a never-ending adventure. The more I discovered about myself, the more baggage I had to let go of. I was clutching on oh so tightly to old stories, fears and relationships, but this year has helped me to loosen my grip and open my eyes even wider to what my mind, body and soul is capable of.
It felt like I had the choice of entering one of three doors this year. Door 1 welcomed safety and comfort, but also happened to bore me to death. Door 2 looked exciting, yet scary and was full of possibilities and opportunities. Door 3 was the complete unknown and required a deep trust, faith and self-belief. I may have peered into each of these three doors but there was only one that I fully stepped into.
Door 2 lead me to some incredible realisations and experiences this year. The people, the teachings, and the random encounters have made 2014 one hell of a year of expansion – have you expanded too? Perhaps these insights (which are still unfolding) might help you on your own personal development journey too.
+ TRUTH TELLING
I’ve always been an open book, and have had no qualms in telling people how I feel. This one video completely broke me open. It made me realise there were so many areas within my life where I wasn’t telling the truth. Not long after watching that video, I sat down with my Manager at work, tears streaming down my face and I told her the truth. I was unhappy with my desk job – I couldn’t do it anymore. Being so open and honest felt like a huge weight had lifted off my shoulders. I started to ask myself this question more and more – are you REALLY being honest with yourself? Do you really feel good after hanging out with that person? Do you really want to devote your time and energy into that project? Once I had answered those questions with 100% honesty – the fear, the shame, the pent up emotion disappeared. Telling the truth can be scary, but the freedom afterwards is SO worth it. A huge thank- you must go to Susana for opening my eyes to this notion.
We’re all independent women yeah? We can do it all and have it all, but sometimes this constant striving and pushing can leave us feeling stuck and frustrated. When I got back from my trip to the US, I was ready to get out of my head and try a different approach. Enter Jenna and the power of kinesiology. The three sessions I had with Jenna were potent. I discovered there was a strong need for me to surrender to my divine feminine energy. Now before you start scratching your head – let me paint a picture of what that meant for me. It meant balancing the need to control with the art of letting go and surrendering. I wanted to feel in control of my career, my business, my relationships but with anything in life, there needed to be a balance. Kinesiology helped me to develop a deep trust in myself, in my desires and let my body do the talking. There’s a place for strategizing and planning, but it was time for my mind to take a backseat. Through our sessions I was able to soften my edges and welcomed a profound sense of peace and clarity. Instead of trying to ‘figure it all out’, I was able to approach life in a more loving and compassionate way. Kinesiology transformed me and I will definitely be going back for more.
+ SELF BELIEF
The truth is not everyone is going to like you (ouch), which is why it’s so important to strengthen that self-belief and self-worth muscle. This has been a hard pill to swallow but a lesson that I am truly grateful for. Creating this blog and completing my life coaching course has enabled me to step up my self-belief this year. Yes we can have supportive friends, family and mentors but unless we believe in ourselves wholeheartedly, we will struggle to reach our full potential. The idea of running a business still scares the shit out of me, but knowing what I have to offer, who I want to work with (and who I don’t want to work with) has helped me to understand the reason why I’m doing this. I want to support, motivate and inspire you, and to do that – I’ve needed a truck-load of self-belief. There have been times when I’ve felt like it was too hard, and that I’m not ‘good enough’, but the belief in myself has helped me to pick myself up, dust myself off and try again…and again and again. I have the wonderful Julie and the Beautiful You Coaching Academy to thank for this. Being your own cheerleader is one of the best gifts that you can give yourself.
You know that moment when something amazing happens and you think – how did that even happen? It’s not a coincidence, that’s magic. It’s the angel’s/universe/God’s (whatever you like to call it) way of saying YES I’ve got your back. I’ve been blessed with some magical moments this year, particularly involving money and receiving. For someone who NEVER wins’ anything, I randomly entered a couple of competitions and ended up winning over $1000 worth of prizes. I received a ridiculously amazing tax return just before we went on our holiday to the US – which after booking the flight, had no idea how I was going to pay for the rest. We bought the MacBook Air that I so desperately needed and moved into the new house that ticked all the boxes. So how did I do it? Well, some things can’t be explained but I do believe that magic happened simply because I chose to believe in it. I’m not kidding, I used to be a half glass empty kinda girl. For some reason I was set on focusing on the negatives within a situation and always anticipated something going wrong. Since improving my mindset, I’ve allowed so much goodness to come into my life because deep down – I believed that I was worthy and believed that miracles do happen. It’s not selfish or greedy, everyone deserves to be happy and healthy and there is nothing wrong with declaring your desires and gratefully receiving them. Magic is literally everywhere – you just have to be open to seeing it.
+ PATIENCE & DIVINE TIMING
Ah my favourite lesson of them all. Yes magic show’s up but it is almost always when you least expect it. That’s where patience and divine timing come in. So many times this year I wanted things to happen RIGHT NOW. I wanted to find a new part-time job and I wanted my man to propose (yes I just said that out loud) but we all know that timing is everything. They say, “what’s meant for you wont pass you by” and I really do believe that. Whilst on the outside things don’t seem to be working out, this year has helped me to trust that the right opportunities always present themselves at the most perfect time. There is no need to rush. Seriously. Sometimes all we need to do is keep going and to practice a little patience.
So as you can see, 2014 has brought many lessons wrapped up in juicy expansion. I can’t even comprehend what 2015 will bring but I know that the lessons will keep on coming. I’ll continue to reflect and connect the dots, but I’m curious to know – what are some of the biggest lessons that you’ve learnt this year? Any major breakthroughs?
This will be my last post for 2014 as I fully immerse myself in holiday mode but thank you to each and every one of you for you stopping by. You really are awesome and if you want to keep up to date with all the shenanigan’s over the holiday’s you can find me on Facebook and Instagram. I hope that you have the most wonderful Christmas and New Year filled with plenty of good times and delicious food! I can’t wait to learn and grow more with you in 2015, I have a feeling it’s going to be another mind blowing year.